You only hear the advice you don’t need

We were in the middle of a translation and the word ‘Izland’ came up. As a native Hungarian I knew it meant the country ‘Iceland’ and moved on without a second thought. Continue reading “You only hear the advice you don’t need”

It’s not the “gold” that makes a gold digger. It’s the “digging”

It’s not the wealth gap that makes a “gold digging” marriage objectionable. It is the intention behind it. And this intention is the same for lower net worth couples, and even poor ones: aiming at a better life by means of marriage.
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The Price of Not Creating Your Own Identity

The vast majority of people would agree that identity and sense of purpose are hard work so you’d rather drift with prefabricated life roles and it’s as good as the real thing because everyone else is doing it, anyway.

But there is a catch. It will kill you.

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Men are not misogynistic. The system is

There is a clichéd trope on parents’ forums about moms of boys being the most patriarchal of them all. They cry foul every time a poor footballer is accused of going and getting it and go to great lengths preaching decency to other people’s daughters. Their love of self has been eclipsed by their love for their offspring, so they identify with their sons – and they become the biggest meninists of them all. No surprise there. Continue reading “Men are not misogynistic. The system is”