We were in the middle of a translation and the word ‘Izland’ came up. As a native Hungarian I knew it meant the country ‘Iceland’ and moved on without a second thought. Continue reading “You only hear the advice you don’t need”
It’s not the wealth gap that makes a “gold digging” marriage objectionable. It is the intention behind it. And this intention is the same for lower net worth couples, and even poor ones: aiming at a better life by means of marriage.
Continue reading “It’s not the “gold” that makes a gold digger. It’s the “digging””
There are three layers to every story you tell: 1) the one you tell the world, 2) the one you don’t tell the world, and 3) the one you don’t even tell yourself. And this is why sometimes others see you better than you can see yourself.
The vast majority of people would agree that identity and sense of purpose are hard work so you’d rather drift with prefabricated life roles and it’s as good as the real thing because everyone else is doing it, anyway.
But there is a catch. It will kill you.
I was six years old, playing in the garage with the neighbour kids.
“Kill it or spare it?” someone shouted in my ears Continue reading “Questions That Should Not Even Be Asked”
You would get fed, you would never have to work. You would be kept for your looks and petted regularly – like a trophy wife. I’ve heard it’s something of the pinnacle of aspirations when it comes to livelihoods. Continue reading “Would You Like to Be a Pet?”
It’s just that you cannot love an entire gender – unless you reduce them to a role they play in your life. And you love the role. The function. And that is demeaning. Continue reading “Misogynists Don’t Hate Women. They Actually Believe They Love Them”
We are essentially teaching the propaganda of the past in history classes. Continue reading “5 Better Ways to Teach History”
Stereotype threat studies really only measure self-enforcement. And even that is strong. Continue reading Stereotypes are both enforced and self-enforced
There is a clichéd trope on parents’ forums about moms of boys being the most patriarchal of them all. They cry foul every time a poor footballer is accused of going and getting it and go to great lengths preaching decency to other people’s daughters. Their love of self has been eclipsed by their love for their offspring, so they identify with their sons – and they become the biggest meninists of them all. No surprise there. Continue reading “Men are not misogynistic. The system is”